Talking to Your Child About Their Mental Health
Mental health is just as important as physical health, and the two are actually closely linked.
For example, if you notice any disruptions in physical health in your child (trouble sleeping, lack of energy, loss of appetite, frequent body aches, etc.), you may want to ask your child some questions about their mental health.
Conversations about mental health do not have to be awkward. You can work them into daily communication, whether in the car ride home from school or during dinner.
Some important strategies to remember when talking to your child about mental health include:
Communicate in a straightforward and neutral manner
Ask questions even when nothing is wrong
Listen intently and lovingly
Model positive sharing of emotions
Here are some thoughtful questions you can ask your child:
Is there anything you want to talk about?
Is anything worrying you?
What makes you feel calm?
What difficulties are you facing now?
What are you most looking forward to this week?
How is your body feeling?
Is there anyone who is upsetting you?
Is it easy for you to fall asleep?
When was the last time you felt very happy?
How do you feel about things changing?
What do you like to do with your friends?
Do you have problems paying attention?
How did you feel at school today?
What is your favorite way to get rid of stress?
What does your ideal day look like?
If the responses to these questions are concerning, make sure to consult your pediatrician or find a local counselor/therapist. Also, make sure to consider mental health just as important as physical health.
In a recent conversation with clinical psychologist, Dr. Kathryn Gordon, she noted that parents would not hesitate to take their children to the doctor if they had a broken leg or trouble breathing. The same should hold true for their mental health: if they are having mental health problems, consult a doctor, counselor, or therapist.
– Dr. Beth Salafia Ph.D.